Boundaries

Over April, I was surrounded by love and hate.  I was given another lesson in boundaries, and it was a post from a page I follow on Facebook that made me understand it so much more, on how best to react and to heal.  I’m sharing my thoughts and actions in the face of very negative energy.   It gave me a wonderful understanding of how to set up good strong boundaries for me.  It even provided me with great mantras.

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As we all do at some point of our lives, we do not meet people’s expectations, wants, needs or desires.  This is when they make their disappointment known to you in many ways.  These negative energies were sent to me by people who felt I didn’t meet their expectations as a psychic medium or author.  It was harsh, but I know that everyone can not like or love me as others do or understand my work.  I am not a mind reader, and I am not able to give everyone the reading or exact words that they need at the time of the reading.  I try very hard to give everyone a good experience, but I have no control over spirit, who comes to me and how they provide me with messages.  I can only work with what I can connect with. 

I was upset and felt terrible as I felt I had let people down, but when I went to my angels, they explained my continuing lesson in boundaries. I have had this lesson in boundaries many times, but I feel I am getting better at seeing it for what it was and how best to respond to negative energy. 

As I talked with my Angels about this lesson, I was shown ways I have broken my own rules or boundaries and put other people’s needs ahead of my own.  I am forever putting other peoples needs and wants ahead of my own. I give away a lot of my own time. I have been taught to set boundaries as well as to look for the best way to send love to people who hurt me, and at the same time to be a better person and learn to shield and protect my own energy. As a psychic medium, I should have that listening to my gut intuition down pat, but even I, when I do not listen and act on what my intuition is telling me, have my life go in the wrong direction, and it hurts!   

I thought that I should offer some suggestions or hints that helped me to get over the nasty remarks about my readings and book.  How I should shut up about” Angels and all that rot” when I am doing a reading.  It was shown to me repeatedly that as soon as you let one negative person or situation into your life, and you react to it, it will grow.  I learnt this one quickly.  It lasted 7 days, and that was 7 days too long.   I really hope that you never have to go through this lesson, but if you do, please think about using the following hints that were provided to me by my angels.

First thing is to forgive yourself.  How fast you can notice the negative energy and how it makes you spiral is the first step.  Do you know how powerful it is when you can step back and look at how the message was delivered to see that it is not about you at all?  It is about them.  No matter what we do for work, we all try our best.  When people criticise us or our work, it hurts. 

The second thing is to send them love.  It is hard, but get that ho'oponopono prayer into action.  Say these words while saying their name.  "I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you"

It was hard to do, especially when they are mad at you for something totally out of your control.  It is hard to send love to people who have hurt you, just want something from you or out of you, but it works!  Please trust me on this.  It does work.  Just say their name, and then the words.  It does become easier over time.

Third Thing, send love or do something caring for you.  Treat yourself.  Be kind to yourself.  Release all those negative words, and emotions these people have thrown at you.   This is fun when you get into the hang of being kind to yourself first.  To think what do I need to get over this hurt.

I wanted some more action things to do so I could feel the energy shift around me completely.  April was a fun month, as I got to celebrate my birthday with such beautiful people, I was on such a high, only to be brought down from such loving and positive energy hard.  I struggled, but once I looked at the lesson, I was better.  Then I was shown how to set up better boundaries through my angels, and I thought to share the steps that helped me remove these dark energies around me.

©      To help you feel better and lift the energy around you, light a white, pink or green candle.  Invoking the connection to Divine energy, and your angels, as well as your heart energy.  Nothing is more powerful than love.

©      To remove the negative energy, salt water, salt foot bath, or salt baths.  Salt is a great protection and clearing tool. 

©      Remove any type of clutter, within your mind, that is on repeat, or from your home.  By clearing out your space, home or at work, you are setting up boundaries and proving yourself with grounding and stability.  All very important energies to have around you.

©      When I am feeling in need of protection of my own energy, I carry my protection crystals and have them in my workspace.  Obsidian, tiger’s eye, and black tourmaline

©      Rest.  This is very important.  Realign your nervous system.  I mean, when someone is mean to you, they put your own energy out of alignment, so please listen to your frequency and make sure you sleep.  We all need rest to reset and be healthy. 

©      I also say my own mantra of, I am happy, I am good, I love myself.  This helps to keep me grounded and open myself up to the good, beautiful, and loving energy around me.  It helps me to attract the people I want in my life. 

©      I also look at how I must set a firm boundary.  I look at my lesson.  I write it all down.  All that I have been hurt by, and how I chose to release it.  Then I set my boundary and vow to protect my energy, my time and the most important thing of all, my own peace.  I find that when I do this, I like to create a square crystal grid with my coloured candle in the middle.  I call in Archangel Michael to help me keep this boundary in place and for the lesson.  I then leave the crystal grid up so that as I walk past it each day, I understand more about that lesson, and sending anyone love who has hurt you in the past is not so hard. 

When you treat yourself with kindness and love, as well as protecting your energy, everyday lessons such as this become more uplifting and easier.  When we realise we are not in control of other people, how they respond, or how they act. We can control ourselves. We can control what we choose to put our energy into and be our best selves. I will leave you with my favourite mantra, from Dr Wayne Dwyer, I am here to give my gifts to the world. I then find when I say this, I find my true purpose - love, happiness and joy.