Mothers
Do spirituality and motherhood go hand in hand?
Hell, yeah I say. When you take on a new role such as a mother you learn so many life lessons. Some valuable, such as how to love and care for someone that is totally reliant on you – some not so much like fancy material possessions are not the be all end all that we are told about in this world today.
It doesn’t matter if you are a mother to a newborn, your first puppy, your assortment of neighbourhood cats. If you love a person, people, or a living thing that you grow attached to, you are a mum. You love. You feel. You are needed and relied on. You are a mum. If you take on a role of responsibility for others. You are a mum.
Important Lessons
You find out some important lessons about yourself and the world around you. So yes your spiritual journey and motherhood are one and the same.
You really can do anything! You are amazing and can look at a situation, from outside the box, and turn it into a positive and amazing lesson or outcome, no matter how big or how small.
Love – such a small word, but boy it rocks your whole word. You learn more about yourself and those around you that you love and would move mountains for. In the time I have been a mum I have really learnt how amazing and important I am and if I am not taking care of me the whole system breaks down. I have learnt to love myself, my family and others all around me. Please do not take this as I am a sweetness and light – because I am not, but I have learnt what love really means and how it is so important to give yourself love to make it through the day, the week your life time.
Letting Go – huge! Everyone learns to let go in some way shape or form. You have to or you will go crazy! You learn to let go of those little things – like finding the bathroom as a clean and relaxing space. You let go that you are no longer able to have your own time when you want. You also let go of a lot of deeper and negative thoughts and feelings. You learn to welcome these, look discover learn and let go.
Present – you discover how special every moment spent with your loves ones really are. You learn to appreciate your time with them as well as the time you get for yourself.
Our spiritual journeys in this lifetime are important. In my opinion, yes spirituality and motherhood are connected. When we are mums we do change. Look back and you will see how much you have grown. How you are finding new desires, learning new skills to be able to go where you can now see your destiny to be. The bigger picture, your life purpose may now be very clear and a big part of that life purpose is to love, care and be loved right back also know as Motherhood.
You will also have this other living person or animal within your life that relies on you for direction, for guidance. You also discover the emotion of fear. Of not wanting anything to be taken away from you, so you need to be able to find that protection and security in your life. Some look to religion, some look in the area of science for logical means and outcomes.
I find that when you look within your heart and follow your gut instinct you never go wrong. By allowing spirituality into your world, you are never alone and can call on them when every you need your own guidance or protection as well as your loved ones.
I wanted to be a Mum and in that journey alone I know and can see how much I have changed as a person. I had a lot of trouble having my child. I went through a lot of heart ache with miscarriages and discovered sadness, hopelessness, fear in the many years when I tried to conceive a baby.
At the time of losing my baby I was not in a good place to understand that “It was meant to be”. I have since been able to comes to terms with my loss of my children I didn’t carry until full term through my meditations and talking with them. I now understand that they are happy, and I was honoured to be chosen to help them with their lessons even if it was to be held inside of me in pure love for only 20 weeks before leaving this Earth plane.
I learnt a lot about myself, even through I was young and felt I was unable to discuss this time of my life as I felt I was to blame. I was the one unable to carry a child to full term. I had to learn to let go. To let go of the pain, to learn to love myself and see how amazing I was to be able to have this understanding about this situation and carry on until I got to hold my beautiful daughter in my arms and feel love in the purest form. To this day I believe the birth of my little girl is the best day of my life and one that I can recall in an instant.
How can we not think that becoming a mother is not spiritual?
With the birth of my baby, I felt my awareness and connection to my higher self-increase. I listened to Angels. I was guided by my signs. I let my inner voice or gut instincts kick in. I discovered love on so many different levels. I found compassion and became more sensitive to mine and others needs.
I looked at myself in a new light. I was this little girl lifeline in those early years. I had to learn new skills and life lessons and I gained some especially important things while discover how to be a Mum.
I really can do anything! I am stronger than anyone thought I would be! Come on I just made a baby! I can be calm and learn how to handle different situations. I can more than able to accomplish any goal I wish to set myself. It wasn’t just me anymore I had to believe that part of me was filled with God energy so that I could make all my dreams and help those around me. I do this be constantly talking to my angels, following my signs, and allowing me to manifest all my dreams into reality.
I had ups and downs. I had happiness and sadness in my life. I have been scared. I have lived and still living my life. This is what we have come here for, but in the back of my mind I was always aware of the Law of Attraction – what you put out you get back. I was always taught that the more positive you are about a situation or concern a better or more positive outcome will occur.
By embracing life – no matter what forms it comes to you, and thinking about that moment in a positive frame, looking at it from different angles or points of view you are learning on your spiritual journey. You are growing and becoming a better you. So just embrace and let go of the resistance.
As your baby grows into a adult you still will have these life problems. You will still need to look at how you will handle the situation and how the loved ones around you are watching you to see if you are doing ok. Once we become a mum we become a teacher as well. Life lessons as well as how to cook, clean and survive in this world. How special are we that we are teaching these amazing humans how to connect with angels, the Universe, and the Universal laws? As you look back you will see how much you have grown and please show your gratitude for the lessons you have learnt. You will see all that you have accomplished and manifested into your life. You should be immensely proud. You are an amazing person firstly and then an amazing mum.
Love and the most important one – Self Love. In this life time I have learnt many different forms of love. To love someone or something else is so easy. To put others before yourself so easy. I am still learning this lesson, but it is HUGE. I really believe that all of us have come to this Earth Plane to learn this lesson. Self-Love.
To be able to look in the mirror and be able to say. I love you! How powerful. I love you just the way you are! Yes those two statements are my goal. I am still working on them. Sadly, in this world there are many others around us that make us feel bad about ourselves either behind our backs and some to our faces.
To be able to let go of other people’s opinions of me is huge and one I believe I have conquered well 90% at least. I will also struggle to look at the mirror and say you are beautiful you are loved, but I do each day. I must learn not to look for others for these words and emotions. How can someone else love us if we cannot love ourselves first? So powerful and yes a huge part of our spiritual journey.
I have discovered the more that I like and yes love about myself the nicer person I become. I like this lesson and happy to keep going until I can tell anyone and everyone that I do love myself for me just as I am. So please find the time to love yourself. If this means time away from the family you need to schedule it in. Find a hobby, go out for that social cup of coffee and do so with no guilt.
A loved-up person is so much nicer to be around, and you are not only giving back to you through self-love, but your loved ones around you will benefit from your calmer loving and more positive energy you will put out.
If you really struggle to pamper or give yourself self-love time, products, or services. Turn it around by seeing it as, taking care of you and your spiritual side, you are actually giving those around you a gift. A gift of your positive and amazing energy when you return to them. Tip for new mums. One hour of meditation is the equivalent of 3 to 4 hours sleep. I am sure you will all want to dive into mediations more as a new mum, oh and the babies love it too!
Letting go
Wow this is such a big one and a lesson that I struggled with. To this day I need to sometimes step back and just re look at the situation or concern to let go. I need to see it from the other person perspective and not take it all on in such an emotional way. This is hard we are emotional beings. That is what makes us all so special and if you know me, you know I am emotional!
I feel that I will be learning this lesson all through my life, but what I have gleamed so far is helping me, so I am embracing the Letting Go. Meditation really helped me with this lesson. It is a blessing to be able to look at something in a different way and understand our emotional attachment to it.
It was my daughter that helped me the most with this lesson. I used to watch as she was playing with friends at Kindy. They would be laughing and having fun. Then you could tell by the body language that one of the kids had done something to hurt her. She would stop and you could see that she was dealing with something, a feeling or emotion. She would then tend to just speak her truth to the other child. Telling them that they hurt her or explaining that they had misunderstood. It was so amazing if someone hurts me I use to hold on to it. I used to cover over it again and again. I would build up such emotion to the subject or what had occurred. When you watch kids, they have a little cry – the other child (well 99% of the time) would react to my daughter’s feelings say they were sorry and add a little hug and bam straight back into the game. Like nothing had happened.
When I use to ask about the situation or concern half the time they had forgotten about it or it was “its ok, Samantha said she was sorry for hurting my feelings” like water of a ducks back and I then saw and realised how I too had to learn to Let Go. I just didn’t have time for the drama or the upset and since making that choice and asking my Angels for help when it is a difficult situation I find I am better within myself.
A huge help for me was learning to take a couple of deep breaths while calming down helped me big time. I am one to overreact so taking some time out helped me to really let go. Whenever I find I want something in my life and it is just not going to plan, I have learnt to breath and look at it and just let it go. Your angels will also explain that anything you must force will never come easily to you and maybe it is just not the right time, place or even right for you. So, you must learn to let go of things to look out for you and your loved ones. Bigger picture we want to lose the negative things, effects and feelings and be the bigger person, the more evolved and spiritual one by just simply letting go.
Being present
Huge!!! Another huge lesson. Learn to be present. I like things to be in order and use to really worry what people thought of my house etc. I still am a bit; I like things in their place (makes life easier for me really) and I like my home to be one that good energy can reside in. So, I try for the lived-in look. While I was running around trying to look like something from the cover of Women’s Weekly I was missing all the best bits.
I was missing the first word, the first crush and so many other magical moments that we need in our lives. I have slowed down now – basically because spirit gave me a huge lesson. One I couldn’t ignore. I was given serious medical conditions. Life threatening, breast cancer. This made me sit back and ask myself “Why am I not in any family photos?” and heard my voice and the voices of other people around me who have judged me, “Because you are not pretty in photos, you are too fat or too ugly”. Well guess what! I am in them now! I here present to see the joy, the love, and the beauty in that tummy. I don’t look at those things in photo, I take in the smiles, the cuddles, the destinations and all the memories that go alone with it.
I stopped being the mother that would store all the drawings and stories that my daughter had given me over the years – that I put in a folder and told myself when I retired I would read them then and have the time to enjoy them. Nope not me. I am a mum, and my spiritual journey is on track. I know take the time to see the beauty. To read the stories. To watch my tv reality show that makes me laugh and cry at the same time and I do not allow the judgement to come into my life. I am not a master at it yet but being told your time here can be cut short, really makes you sit back and see what is important in your life.
You are import. I am import. Our families and loved ones are important. Our lives are important.
Being a MUM is so IMPORTANT as you also get the joy of passing on all this amazing knowledge to your children, parents, siblings, and friends. You are amazing and can really make a difference in everyone lives around you and around the world by your choices. Your spiritual journey just by deciding to be you. It doesn’t really matter if you are not a “Mother” to a child. You are a Mother to our Earth, our environment, our space. and time, all around you because of a couple of things.
You love and you care.
